How to Have a Social Life and Get Good Grades Too!

Social Life

Change the Way You See Yourself

You have just received advice at a relatively young age that it took me years, and I do mean years to figure out.

You can never rise any higher than your own image of yourself.

Have you ever known a student in school who had a real low opinion of herself or himself?  No matter what evidence they had to the contrary, they were always saying they couldn’t do math or oral reports, or sports, or whatever.

And they never did do very well, did they?

Before you can ever hope for something better and expect it will happen for you, whether it’s better grades, or a better social life at school, as a student you must first change the way you see yourself.

So, if you want better grades, immediately start seeing yourself coming to class well-prepared, feeling confident as you answer the teacher’s questions, and enjoying the great sense of accomplishment that comes from getting a good grade on your project or test.

Want a better social life?  More friends?  More dates?  More study buddies?

Well, see yourself as a student who is  comfortable and confident as you interact with others.

Notice how good those people feel being around you because you are genuinely open and friendly.

It all starts in your mind.  See yourself as the student you’d like to be and then move into that image. How you see yourself can send messages to other students consciously and subconsciously so that you are better received by them and, more importantly, by yourself.

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College Success Speaker, Crystal Jonas- Bio Link

Hi, I’m Crystal Jonas,

As a former academic advisor and assistant professor at the United States Air Force Academy, I know what it takes to make college students more successful, enjoy school whole lot more.

Ask about speaking or coaching for your students or faculty. Call me at 719- 291-0366.

There Actually is Such a Thing as Asking a Stupid Question!

One thing that teachers won’t tell you is that actually there are such things as stupid questions. And teachers inwardly roll their eyes when they hear one.

Teachers don't want to hear stupid questions from students

You’ve seen this happen: You’re in class, a student who usually not only sleeps but also snores through most of the period, raises his hand and begins, “This is probably a stupid question.”For some reason, the teacher answers, “Now, there are no stupid questions.” And sure enough, here it comes, the most ridiculous question you’ve heard all year.

If you’re thinking there are such things as stupid questions, you’re right. Only to soften the blow, let’s call them ill-advised questions, shall we?

Let’s go over some questions that, as a student, you don’t want to be caught dead asking. Right off the bat, let me say that anytime you do not read the assignment for the day, you may not ask questions.

Not trying to be a control freak here, just looking out for your best interest as a student. Why not ask if you haven’t read? Quite simply, students can end up really looking silly if the question is already answered in the text. It’s a big, black mark against them. Makes you look not only ill-prepared, but lazy. Your teacher is thinking, you didn’t do your part, now you want to use class time for something you should have done yourself. Bad idea. Also, if you have one of those teachers who like to rub it in when it’s obvious that a student hasn’t prepared, you may be in for some serious teasing throughout the term.

You can also forget getting others to be your partner on a group project. Once others know you don’t do your work, they won’t want to let you ride on their coattails. And obviously, no body wants someone in a study group who won’t carry his own weight, either. See?

As a student, some questions are best left unasked. Now that I’ve got some of you sufficiently paranoid, two important points:

  1. If you have prepared, yes, please do ask a question, if you need a point clarified. Jump right in there
  2. If you do ask a question, DO NOT, under any circumstance, begin by saying, “This is probably as stupid question.”  Why leave off the “stupid question” disclaimer? Because it’s weak, and makes you look like you don’t have confidence in yourself.  Be bold, it earns you more respect as a student and in life.

You know, we teach people how to treat us. We do this by how we treat them, and ourselves. And as a student, this includes how you talk about yourself. Saying you have a stupid question really undermines credibility.

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College Success Speaker, Crystal Jonas- Bio Link

Hi, I’m Crystal Jonas,

As a former academic advisor and assistant professor at the United States Air Force Academy, I know what it takes to make college students more successful, enjoy school whole lot more.

Ask about speaking or coaching for your students or faculty. Call me at 719- 291-0366.

Going Beyond the GPA

If Your College GPA is Not a True Measure of Future Success, What is?

Balancing GPA, with everything elseI was once an Assistant Professor of English at the US Air Force Academy for 7 years and I’m here to tell you that I think it’s great if you’re making good grades.

I’m also saying, a good GPA will only take you so far.

Now, this is either good news or bad news, depending on how you see it.

I tell students my goal is to help the them “Cash in on the College Investment.”

The goal of getting maximum ROI (have you heard that business term before?  It means “return on investment.”) is to launch a great career upon graduation from college.

Which means what?

To get the most return on your college investment, you:

A) Have grades good enough to stay in college

B) Have grades good enough to inspire your teachers to want to help you make the right contacts in the ‘real world.’

C) You do all you can to prepare for that job while still in school

D) All of the above

The answer?  D of course.

Success goes beyond the grades.  So make sure you’re living a balanced life with this in mind.

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College Success Speaker, Crystal Jonas- Bio Link

Hi, I’m Crystal Jonas,

As a former academic advisor and assistant professor at the United States Air Force Academy, I know what it takes to make college students more successful, enjoy school whole lot more.

Ask about speaking or coaching for your students or faculty. Call me at 719- 291-0366.

Students, Learn How to Tap Into That Big Brain of Yours

Students who want to be successful should know more about how much they have going for them right between their ears.

Students Tap into your brain powerDid you know you have a million, million brain cells?

Give or take a few dozen or so, that’s about how many you have. And we used to believe that we only use about 10% of our brain power and now we know we really use about 1%. Amazing, isn’t it?

Here’s what this means to you.

You are a natural born genius!

Right now, you have exactly what it takes to be exactly the student you were meant to be. You know, that person who can accomplish all those things you think about late at night when you imagine what your life will be like after graduation?

You are destined for success as a student and in life! If you want to have more success in school, your job is to tap that potential and put it to use.

If you want to learn more about how your brain works, and how to be successful in school as a student, read the rest of my student success tips; let your brain help you make the ride to success the exhilarating journey it was meant to be.

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College Success Speaker, Crystal Jonas- Bio Link

Hi, I’m Crystal Jonas,

As a former academic advisor and assistant professor at the United States Air Force Academy, I know what it takes to make college students more successful, enjoy school whole lot more.

Ask about speaking or coaching for your students or faculty. Call me at 719- 291-0366.