Student Success Tip– Stop the blaming! A hallmark of successful people is that they take responsibility for their actions.
Do you believe in free will? You do if you believe there’s no one pulling your strings and causing you to behave in a certain way. In the hundreds of seminars I’ve given across the United States , I’ve never met a single person who does not believe in free will. Here’s the truth about free will. If you honestly believe in it, you can’t blame others for your feelings. So this means you can no longer say “You make me so mad.” True, you may be “so mad,” but think this through. If you are mad, how long do you have to stay mad? Do you have to stay mad until that person makes you “un-mad?” Of course not, even the idea sounds ridiculous. Exactly. So if you’re mad, how long do you have to stay mad? That’s right, until you decide not to be. I’ll tell you something straight up. There are millions of full grown adults who have been in the work place since before you were born who still haven’t figured this out. They are the ones carelessly choosing bad attitudes and blaming others for those negative attitudes. If you stop blaming others for your feelings, and start taking full responsibility, you will truly distinguish yourself among others. _________________________________________________________________
As a former academic advisor and assistant professor at the United States Air Force Academy, Crystal Jonas knows what it takes to make college students more successful, and enjoy school whole lot more. Ask about speaking or coaching for your students or faculty. Call Crystal at 719- 291-0366. ____________________________________________________________